Carol McClain

I have a quarter. On the front is a picture of George Washington, and on the back, a buffalo. I cannot keep my quarter if I throw out the buffalo just as I can’t ditch ol’ George and admire the big beast. To be cliche: they’re two sides of the same coin.

According to research, we develop neural pathways from habits of thinking. Our brains wire themselves to using these patterns when assessing a situation. Thus, if you’re anxious, your first line of thought would be that everything will go wrong because you’ve trained your brain to think this way.

How about if you feel guilty? You enumerate over and over how overcome your guilt or how to make amends or…whatever your go-to whipping post is.

Same, too, with perfectionism. For me, I try harder, but then I see my failure, so I work harder. When everything falls apart, I quit.

And I know how to rebel.

But mostly, I work harder.

However, I’ve, too a large degree, overcome this striving for perfection after reading a Washington Post article on transforming neural pathways.

 30 Days to Less Guilt 

1. Every night use a journal and list three good things about yourself. Maybe a friend said your hair looked good. Write it down. Don’t argue with her. Don’t give excuses about why she said it. Just believe it. Do you make a good cup of coffee? Write it down. Are you helpful? Did you compliment someone? Exercise? Write down.
2. Every morning review your good things. Do not question them. Do not compare yourself. Yes, few of us are the best in the world, but all of us have good attributes: physical, mental, emotional, artistic, practical. We’ve got them.
3. Do this for thirty days. It takes about three weeks to create a habit. For some, it’s less, for some more. During this exercise, you’ll find yourself asking, “What am I doing well?” or “What will I write tonight?” In that process, you’ll be transforming your mind.

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